"What a load of crap", these are the words I want to say to every person that I speak about prices for the wedding. On Friday the 9th of March 2007 Janelle and I will wed so currently everything we are doing revolves around looking for all those extras that you need for that very special day. But it does seem that everyone is cashing in on this experience and basically everything costs $1000, or multiples of that. I always thought the most important part was the ceremony itself, but that is not the case anymore. It is the hair, the makeup, the dress, the suits, the cars, the cake, the flowers, the reception, the band, the invites, the bombonniere.
For starters it isn't a full mass anymore, basically the bride walks into the church, the priest says two words and you are married. There is nothing in it anymore, no love, no commitment just a couple of quick words and you are married. Who goes back and looks at their wedding vows and determines if they are still committing to them, not many I'm guessing.
For most groomsmen, the day probably starts about two hours before the ceremony where they get dressed jump in the car then head to the church, for the bride and her bridesmaids it probably starts at about 7:00 am and begins from there, so by the time you actually get to the reception you are so stuffed that all you want to do is finish the night and go home.
But good god it is expensive, everything just costs so much. Let's start with the reception, 120 people at about $100 per head you don't have to be a mathematician to work out how much that is. This is just for people to sit down and eat and we probably aren't even paying as much as some other people (and when I say we, I mean our parents). Then there is the rest, the flowers I haven't priced yet so not too sure on that one. The cars are about $1000, the cake is anywhere between (if you go by the prices I saw at Myer today) are between $600 and $1000, and once again I'm sure that you could pay a lot more for this.
The music ranges from DJ's at a pretty decent price for the length of time that you have them, to three piece bands for about $1500, and if you are as stupid as some families are (I heard a story of an Italian guy marrying a Macedonian girl, they had two bands because the Italians would only dance to Italian music and likewise for the Macedonians) well, what more is there to say?
I have no idea what the dresses are worth but I definitely think it can be the sky is the limit on these things. For something that you are going to wear once in your life, worry about the whole day you are wearing it then to be put away in a box and chucked up into a cupboard somewhere it hardly seems worth it. As far as I'm concerned as long as the girl turns up, it doesn't matter what she is wearing. The suits, how hard is that! I've got a deal for the hire of all the suits, this is the first chance I've had today to go and look at them b out because the deal runs out at the end of the week, I need to have everyone sized up, I mean what the hell, the wedding isn't for a years time. Why can't I just hand over the credit card, say I want that and that and then worry about that later, what bloody difference does it make what size I am yet. I might be either side of my current size by the time the wedding comes around (hopefully the smaller size).
The photography is the same, the sky is the limit, you pay for what you want, you can get a pretty basic package, someone using a pretty cheap SLR with film and all they do is give you the negatives, to full on packages that are worth in excess of $5000; this is also the same for Videography. Of course every company justifies what they are doing, "oh you know, you need studio time to determine this" there is the pre-wedding arrangements and the after wedding arrangements.
What does annoy me more than anything else when organizing a wedding is hearing all the stories from everyone else who has done one or is about to do so, or might do it in the future or blah blah blah.
Let me state this right now, our parents are helping significantly in the monetary sense for this wedding, without their support who knows what would have happened. I can not stand anyone who talks about what they are getting for their wedding, where you should go to get your dress, the suits, the jewellery, how many are going to the reception. They all talk shit
, the simple fact of the matter is that their parents pay for everything
, if they have the $5000 photographer and the $5000 videographer and the $5000 dress and they have 600 people at the wedding and they are travelling around the world for their honeymoon, they aren't paying for it their parents are. Yet all they do is take about how much an effort it has been for them. I tell you one thing, someone gives me an open cheque book, I'll give you a wedding of the likes you've never seen before. Never once will you hear any of these people praise their parents for providing them with such a lavish fare, they just expect it.
Well that's enough of a niggle for the moment, it is after all a special day. I just think the significance has moved too far away from what the day is really about and too much on the materialistic nature of our society. Sure, we are caught up in it also, but let me leave you with this thought. How many people have thought the measly $400 you have to give to the church parish for the ceremony is excessive?